Morality question...

[TommyHotWheel]

Ok, this is something I am struggling with. I have a son, 8, high functioning Autistic. He lives with my ex, she has been told for 5 years to put him in a "public" school, by the judge...no go, she lies every time. I have just found out that if he was in a program, basic stuff that would be done coinciding with normal school classes, he would have a better than average chance of leading a very normal and productive life. My ex refuses, ignores advice and home schools(without the school district or states sponsorship) and recieves SSI for him. My question, would the normal person consider this neglect? As it stands, in the last few years he is actually regressing without ASD programs or therapies. She pretty much takes him to her Mom's or sister's houses and lets him play video games all day and they sometimes, when he asks, read a book. Thanks for the read and thoughts.