Cheating - Page 2

Sean · 11-06-2009, 12:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Speedracer42

But I know for example, one woman who cheated after begging for YEARS her husband to give her more attention, have sex with her more, be a better presence in the house. Is it excused? No. But I get it. And so did he. If you truly LOVE someone there isn't alot that shouldn't be forgiven ONCE

I can kind of understand this

Thankfully I've never been in this situation (that I know of) so I can't really say how I'd react.

ETA: I also have a hard time leaving someone I care about, so they'd have to really ufkc things up to get rid of me

Trip · 11-06-2009, 12:16 PM

talking and flirting I wouldn't consider cheating, going out for lunch (coworkers) and group activities and such, but if it gets into dating like activities and beyond is where I would draw the line.

I would break it off immediately and be done, one strike and you're out. Trust is important to me and cheating pretty much shows it isn't to the person, so fuck them.

skiergirl · 11-06-2009, 12:38 PM

I couldn't do it! I had a cheating boyfriend once and he was out the door the same day. I would never be able to trust that person again no matter what they said or did. Just me though, many do decide to work it out and from what I've seen that rarely works for more than a short period of time.

The key is if you decide to work it out and 'forgive' the other then you better damn well forgive it. Don't bring it up when you get mad, or use it against the other. forgive, talk figure out what when wrong, fix it and let it go....you can't keep rubbing it in their face. seen too many couples do just that and they end up splitting later anyway.

BobTheBiker · 11-06-2009, 12:53 PM

Been there with an ex, the answer is FUCK NO. the instant I find out you cheated on me with another person, you're gone like a turd goin down the crapper.

MILK · 11-06-2009, 01:38 PM

I have in the past but never will again!!

dReWpY · 11-06-2009, 01:43 PM

nope, out the door

MissHell · 11-06-2009, 02:15 PM

In general, I say no. However it really depends on the relationship and the details.

Is this boyfriend/girlfriend or a marriage?
Are there children involved?
How long was the relationship?
What is the nature of the cheating? (inter-course? on-line flirting?)

I have learned to never say never.

Strahberrie · 11-06-2009, 03:00 PM

I always said no, always always no; now I have an almost 4 month old little guy and am not sure what to do....

MILK · 11-06-2009, 03:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skiergirl

I would never be able to trust that person again no matter what they said or did.

Bingo.

Also the old saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is really really true.

skiergirl · 11-06-2009, 03:57 PM

sometimes things just get so broke they can't ever be fixed the same again... and it sucks but it's better to realize, be hurt and move forward than wait for it to happen again.

View Poll Results: Would you continue a relationship with a cheater?
Hell no!	43	71.67%
Yes but with "conditions"	9	15.00%
Yes - who cares	2	3.33%
What's good enough for Tater is good enough for me.	6	10.00%
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11-06-2009, 12:38 PM	#13
skiergirl Gixxer Girl Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Kyle, TX Moto: 05 GSXR 750 & 06 YZ250F Posts: 1,424	I couldn't do it! I had a cheating boyfriend once and he was out the door the same day. I would never be able to trust that person again no matter what they said or did. Just me though, many do decide to work it out and from what I've seen that rarely works for more than a short period of time. The key is if you decide to work it out and 'forgive' the other then you better damn well forgive it. Don't bring it up when you get mad, or use it against the other. forgive, talk figure out what when wrong, fix it and let it go....you can't keep rubbing it in their face. seen too many couples do just that and they end up splitting later anyway.

11-06-2009, 12:53 PM	#14
BobTheBiker too much time on my hands Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: the northern district of god damn Moto: 01 ZX6R, looking for more now. Posts: 1,802	Been there with an ex, the answer is FUCK NO. the instant I find out you cheated on me with another person, you're gone like a turd goin down the crapper.

11-06-2009, 01:38 PM	#15
MILK The cows want you dead. Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 2,087	I have in the past but never will again!!

11-06-2009, 02:15 PM	#17
MissHell Followed the crowd over. Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Hawaii Moto: '07 Yahama R6 Posts: 911	In general, I say no. However it really depends on the relationship and the details. Is this boyfriend/girlfriend or a marriage? Are there children involved? How long was the relationship? What is the nature of the cheating? (inter-course? on-line flirting?) I have learned to never say never.

11-06-2009, 03:00 PM	#18
Strahberrie Lifes a beeeech Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NE Pa Moto: Sv1000s Posts: 54	I always said no, always always no; now I have an almost 4 month old little guy and am not sure what to do....

11-06-2009, 03:57 PM	#20
skiergirl Gixxer Girl Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Kyle, TX Moto: 05 GSXR 750 & 06 YZ250F Posts: 1,424	sometimes things just get so broke they can't ever be fixed the same again... and it sucks but it's better to realize, be hurt and move forward than wait for it to happen again.