Cheating

[wildchild]

Originally Posted by MILK

I have in the past but never will again!!

yep. sucked it up for the kids etc. bad idea.

[Tsunami]

Originally Posted by MissHell

In general, I say no. However it really depends on the relationship and the details.

Is this boyfriend/girlfriend or a marriage?
Are there children involved?
How long was the relationship?
What is the nature of the cheating? (inter-course? on-line flirting?)

I have learned to never say never.

Plus one

[Particle Man]

Now that I have a kid, I'd probably work it out until said child is out of school...

though I'd demand BJ's daily from the cheating SO as compensation.

[the chi]

Never say never is a good philosophy, but like Trip said, once that trust is gone, its gone. Even if I stayed with a cheater, it would always be in my mind that it would happen again and thats not how I want to spend my life, always worrying.

[Smittie61984]

Originally Posted by skiergirl

The key is if you decide to work it out and 'forgive' the other then you better damn well forgive it. Don't bring it up when you get mad, or use it against the other. forgive, talk figure out what when wrong, fix it and let it go....you can't keep rubbing it in their face. seen too many couples do just that and they end up splitting later anyway.

Right on. Nor can the person cheated on use it as a "free" pass to fuck around.

I wouldn't know what to do. My girlfriend is the 1st really serious girlfriend I had or cared about. Other girls I didn't give a fuck who she was fucking as long as she was fucking me too. It was more of a "don't ask don't tell" thing going on.

I trust my gf 100%. If she did I would know too because she can't live with the guilt.

Now she is allowed to kiss or bang girls as long as she films it or I'm involved

We also have 2 people each we can fuck without it being cheating.
Mine are Megan Fox and Carmen Electra
She wants Mark Walhberg and the Stiffler guy.

[Quick281]

Originally Posted by Trip

talking and flirting I wouldn't consider cheating, going out for lunch (coworkers) and group activities and such, but if it gets into dating like activities and beyond is where I would draw the line.

I would break it off immediately and be done, one strike and you're out. Trust is important to me and cheating pretty much shows it isn't to the person, so fuck them.

Thats pretty much how I feel.

[anthonyk]

Eh, my wife and I are in a "who cares" phase at the moment. I guess it's not really cheating then...

[iDesmo]

Originally Posted by CrazyKell

If you found out your SO was cheating would you continue the relationship?

You'd have a situation which usually does not arise without precursors. If you're attentive months or weeks earlier there are signs, like coming home late, conversations that hold a person's name you're unfamiliar with or vague explanations of why they're late or didn't make that commitment date / dinner / outing and all that while giving no eye contact.

It takes a long time for a relationship or marriage to unwrap. It's not an over night occurrence usually. It takes a long time for the wounds to heal too. It's not shades of black or white.

On the other hand, try being on the phone speaking to your girlfriend while she's totally out of breath. And wonder.

[Homeslice]

Originally Posted by Speedracer42

But I know for example, one woman who cheated after begging for YEARS her husband to give her more attention, have sex with her more, be a better presence in the house.

Then break the hell up!

If you aren't getting what you want, move on. It's that simple. Kids or finances be damned (you're kidding yourself if you think staying together is what's best for your kids).

People who cheat while using their SO as a safety blanket are the lamest kind of people. Too weak to communicate what they want, too weak to break up if they don't get what they want, and too immoral to feel bad about cheating.

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by Homeslice

Then break the hell up!

If you aren't getting what you want, move on. Kids or finances be damned. It's that simple.

People who cheat while using their SO as a safety blanket are the worst kind of people. Too weak to communicate what they want, or too weak to break up if they don't get it.

Plus one million.