Vasectomy.

[Homeslice]

Originally Posted by The Chi

On the not telling scenario, I definitely wouldnt recommend it. Not only is it hateful and hurtful unnecessarily, but if you tell her up front there is no way in the world you will be having children with her, she can go her own way before things go ugly.

Post of the thread.

[Ninjakel]

Originally Posted by Triple

I'll tell her after we've paid off our debts.

That's mature.

[HokieDNA01]

Originally Posted by TIGGER

Look, I hear what you are saying but Kathy and Rae, I know almost for certain that you both know girls that have gotten pregnant on purpose against a man's wishes. but I definitely wouldn't tell her until after the deed was done. he may as well spare himself the threats and the arguments that this will bring. No offense, but he already allowed himself to be beaten down once, there's no reason to believe that she can't do it again. Regardless, if he is certain that he wants to do this, he had better get the balls (haha) rolling ASAP!

Actually no I don't know anyone that has done that. You know you can tell her and there is a great way to not get pregnant after telling her but before the appointment if he really doesn't trust her....condoms or no sex.

[the chi]

Originally Posted by TIGGER

Look, I hear what you are saying but Kathy and Rae, I know almost for certain that you both know girls that have gotten pregnant on purpose against a man's wishes. but I definitely wouldn't tell her until after the deed was done. he may as well spare himself the threats and the arguments that this will bring. No offense, but he already allowed himself to be beaten down once, there's no reason to believe that she can't do it again. Regardless, if he is certain that he wants to do this, he had better get the balls (haha) rolling ASAP!

Hunny, you give bad advice sometimes, this is one of them. Regardless of the situation, on what planet is it ever a good idea to lie about something that drastically affects someone elses life to the detriment of a person? I know we disagree on many things, but you have to have no ethics, morals or even good sense to advise someone to lie to another person about something as life changing as this.

[shmike]

Originally Posted by Triple

You understand, then, why the world doesn't need any more of me...

I am certainly not trying to talk you out of it.

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Triple

I'll tell her after we've paid off our debts.

Well, they've just cleared a birth control shot for men if I'm not mistaken...

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by The Chi

Hunny, you give bad advice sometimes, this is one of them. Regardless of the situation, on what planet is it ever a good idea to lie about something that drastically affects someone elses life to the detriment of a person? I know we disagree on many things, but you have to have no ethics, morals or even good sense to advise someone to lie to another person about something as life changing as this.

Okay, but it doesn't necessarily affect her life does it? I mean the truth of the matter is, she married someone who clearly stated that they never wanted to have children. She agreed to his conditions. Him getting fixed shouldn't change anything between them technically. He is being consistent and true to his principles.

[pauldun170]

Originally Posted by TIGGER

He is being consistent and true to his principles.

He already bitched out and got married violating one principle.

No point...just establishing ...yeah no point.

Otherwise.
Divorce and let the girl go find some who shares the same goals.

[pauldun170]

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[askmrjesus]

Originally Posted by pauldun170

Divorce and let the girl go find some who shares the same goals.

What? And let her off the hook for her half of the flat screen?

JC