Q for divorced parents

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

Met with my attorney yesterday. The court date can't be moved up, I just have to wait. Her attorney hasn't returned any phone calls and mine says he works some cases on a "flat-fee" and that he doesn't give much attention to those cases. It's also possible she hasn't paid her attorney yet.

I also found out a likely reason for her to try to keep me from having my daughter overnight. Child support is based on the number of "overnights" you have the child in a year. The fewer nights I have my daughter, the more she gets in support. What's absolutely stupid is that I could have my daughter ALL day long, but if she spends that night at her mom's house, I effectively have to pay support for that day.

I've never had any set child support. She always said she only wanted me to pay for daycare, which I've always done.

My attorney seems to think she won't win, but says the judge is inconsistent in her rulings. He doesn't seem to think she will be in this case because there is an established schedule that has been in place for some time and the judge won't want to disrupt things.

I can only wait and see.

Good luck bro!!!

[TommyHotWheel]

Take any proof of scheduled events or any documentation of ongoing happenings or any proof that she spends nights or extended time with you. If you have corroboration it will help. Have teachers, therapists, friends, parents, grandparents, neighbors, instructors, waitors any one that will prove any ongoing overnight visitation. Documentation is your new best friend. Words hurt, but words backed up in court and notarized are better than unobtainium.

[CrazyKell]

Good luck.

It's so frustrating that your life (and your daughter's) is hanging in the balance of a possibly random ruling by a judge.

I've never been in this situation, but have watched friends go through it. I can't believe how frustrating it can be from all sides.