Funerals

[Flexin]

Maybe. I have rode to one before but it wasn't because of a motorcycle. Even if she hates motorcycles it might make her feel good that people would do that for him.

Someone could even talk to the family and let someone know that a group wants to ride there out of respect for him.

It was a car that hit him so is everyone going to take the bus?

And what about the people that only own a bike? They need to get there. What if they know him and don't know about his mothers hate for bikes?

James

[udman]

Originally Posted by wildchild

yes i would.

I had a friend die who i used to play guitar with and hang out in bars with a lot. we always joked around that if one of us dies we want to be buried in boots and jeans and the other would come to the funeral wearing the same.
he died a couple months later at a very young age. I showed up at his funeral as asked by him. I was the only one there that way. funny after the service one of his other buddies asked me to play one of my bud's guitars before they closed the casket.
you go to a funeral to pay your last respects to the one who died.

I think this situation is different. You guys discussed it beforehand while Zoomies hypothetical did not. If the friend made it clear they wanted bikes at their funeral then there better be bikes at the funeral, otherwise no. New rule for every group ride; ask everyone how they want to be buried before the ride begins. That oughta get the noobs a little more contemplative about that blind curve coming up.

[Adeptus_Minor]

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

I would not ride for the reasons others have mentioned. Plus if the mother is distraught it may cause an out burst from her that will cause a scene. You never know. Your friend is gone, ride for him afterwards. Funerals are a greiving process for the family, not the dead.

I like how Kathy put it.

[Trip]

It's a dick move to the mom. No need to upset her when she lost her child.

If you lost your daughter to something like this, would you like it if one of her friends showed up supporting the very thing that took your child's life? It's got to be hard enough to lose a child without people wanting to be douchebags to you at the funeral. Almost Fred Phelpish.

[Apoc]

If it were a large group ride to the funeral, then yes. Alone, no, I wouldnt.

I would want my friends to ride to mine if I died on a bike.

[the chi]

Originally Posted by Apoc

If it were a large group ride to the funeral, then yes. Alone, no, I wouldnt.

I would want my friends to ride to mine if I died on a bike.

100%.

If the friend didnt mention anything, then probably no though. I know if I go on my bike I want a damn parade and some good music, bbq and a party. My mom will hate it, but everyone knows my wishes. And cremate me I can travel to all the places I loved.

[Cruzergirl]

Originally Posted by The Chi

100%.

If the friend didnt mention anything, then probably no though. I know if I go on my bike I want a damn parade and some good music, bbq and a party. My mom will hate it, but everyone knows my wishes. And cremate me I can travel to all the places I loved.

Exactly. And Mom WOULD hate it but on the other hand she would LOVE the fact that there was so much support, no matter how it showed up at the funeral home.

[Cutty72]

Originally Posted by Trip

It's a dick move to the mom. No need to upset her when she lost her child.

If you lost your daughter to something like this, would you like it if one of her friends showed up supporting the very thing that took your child's life? It's got to be hard enough to lose a child without people wanting to be douchebags to you at the funeral. Almost Fred Phelpish.

So if a parent hated that their child had joined the military, and then was killed while serving, should that soldier/sailer/airman not get a military funeral and insist that none of his/her friends and brothers/sisters in arms wear Class A's to the funeral?

[karl_1052]

Depends. Is the mom hot?

[HokieDNA01]

Originally Posted by wildchild

yes i would.

I had a friend die who i used to play guitar with and hang out in bars with a lot. we always joked around that if one of us dies we want to be buried in boots and jeans and the other would come to the funeral wearing the same.
he died a couple months later at a very young age. I showed up at his funeral as asked by him. I was the only one there that way. funny after the service one of his other buddies asked me to play one of my bud's guitars before they closed the casket.
you go to a funeral to pay your last respects to the one who died.

but boots/jeans/guitars weren't a cause of death. I would want to discuss it with the mother first and see how she feels. I would not show up on bikes unannounced.