Cheating - Page 6

JoshuaTree · 11-08-2009, 10:30 AM

I've been cheated on. Finding out on a Valentine's Day truly sucked. Would I ever trust her in a relationship - NO, never again (and yes, she's asked several times to come back, through two other long-term relationships she's had). Do I pity her for her choices and the resulting soul-less, joy-less life she leads, perhaps. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin "... those that would trade essential love and happiness for temporary lifestyle and living status gains deserve neither..."

YMMV...

the chi · 11-08-2009, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JoshuaTree

I've been cheated on. Finding out on a Valentine's Day truly sucked. Would I ever trust her in a relationship - NO, never again (and yes, she's asked several times to come back, through two other long-term relationships she's had). Do I pity her for her choices and the resulting soul-less, joy-less life she leads, perhaps. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin "... those that would trade essential love and happiness for temporary lifestyle and living status gains deserve neither..."

YMMV...

Thats a great quote, really puts it in perspective.

cbrchick · 11-08-2009, 09:10 PM

Not saying any of y'all "no cheater for me" think this....

But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's.

Anyway... back to the discussion.

I'd say no to cheating SO - trust would be very hard to regain.

Mr Lefty · 11-08-2009, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by cbrchick

Not saying any of y'all "no cheater for me" think this....

But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's.

Anyway... back to the discussion.

I'd say no to cheating SO - trust would be very hard to regain.

part of the issue... is that the trust between me and that person hasn't been broken.

now I've had only one friend cheat on his girlfriend... I stayed out of it... if she'd have asked me I'd have been honest with her... and I told him that... but our friendship wasn't broken...

same as I can be friends with someone who cheats... just can't be in a relationship.

CrazyKell · 11-08-2009, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by cbrchick

But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's.

I always find that really interesting too. And in fact, I dropped a "friend" that did some really questionable stuff to his girlfriend. Not my idea of a person I want in my life.

Kaneman · 11-08-2009, 10:02 PM

I'm not my friend's moral police. One of my best friends is a fairly crappy husband and has a fairly crappy wife, as far as I know they've both cheated. But he would kill someone if I asked him and he is always there when I need him. I've been friends with him for 15 years, we've been through all kinds of crazy shit together and he's never turned on me and always had my back. Friend's like that only come along 2-3 times in a lifetime and those aren't the kind of people you drop because they've done "questionable stuff" to their S.O.

I have no loyalty to his wife, only to him, and vice versa. I couldn't care less who he marries, dates or how much of a selfish asshole he is to them. I would never sell any of my friends out by ratting on them to their wives or anyone else. I would probably laugh in his wife's face if she tried to get some info out of me. I care about his relationship with me, not with anyone else.

CrazyKell · 11-08-2009, 10:17 PM

The "friend" I'm talking to isn't like the one you're talking about. And I was dragged into the "questionable" stuff. I didn't want to be a part of it. Confronted him and told him the only way I could continue a relationship was if it wasn't all on the up and up. He chose to still be a slimebag. Not my idea of a friend.

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11-08-2009, 10:30 AM	#51
JoshuaTree DILLIGAF? Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Austin, Texas, USA, Earth, Sol, Western Spiral Arm, Milky Way Moto: 1993 K75SA Posts: 483	I've been cheated on. Finding out on a Valentine's Day truly sucked. Would I ever trust her in a relationship - NO, never again (and yes, she's asked several times to come back, through two other long-term relationships she's had). Do I pity her for her choices and the resulting soul-less, joy-less life she leads, perhaps. To paraphrase Benjamin Franklin "... those that would trade essential love and happiness for temporary lifestyle and living status gains deserve neither..." YMMV... __________________ "Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?" "Learn to do the counter-intuitive things that may one day save your ass..." "... Love Much, Laugh Often..." - Amanda Kay Corso (January 18, 1980 - April 15, 2008)

11-08-2009, 10:02 PM	#56
Kaneman AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Odessa, TX Moto: 2000 Honda CBR1100XX Blackbird Posts: 4,931	I'm not my friend's moral police. One of my best friends is a fairly crappy husband and has a fairly crappy wife, as far as I know they've both cheated. But he would kill someone if I asked him and he is always there when I need him. I've been friends with him for 15 years, we've been through all kinds of crazy shit together and he's never turned on me and always had my back. Friend's like that only come along 2-3 times in a lifetime and those aren't the kind of people you drop because they've done "questionable stuff" to their S.O. I have no loyalty to his wife, only to him, and vice versa. I couldn't care less who he marries, dates or how much of a selfish asshole he is to them. I would never sell any of my friends out by ratting on them to their wives or anyone else. I would probably laugh in his wife's face if she tried to get some info out of me. I care about his relationship with me, not with anyone else. __________________ 1982 Honda XR80 - blown motor, 1993 Kawasaki ZX6D - sold, 2001 Suzuki Bandit 1200S - sold, 1984 Honda Magna - sold, 2001 Kawasaki ZRX1200R - blown motor, 2007 Suzuki DL1000 V-Strom - totalled, 2003 Yamaha FZ1 - sold, 1994 Honda Magna - sold, 2001 Honda CBR600F4i - sold, 1998 Suzuki DR350 - stolen, 1989 Honda Super Magna - sold, 2007 Yamaha Stratoliner, 2000 Honda CBR 1100XX Blackbird

11-08-2009, 09:10 PM	#53
cbrchick Canyon Carver Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada Moto: Honda CBR 600, Yamaha Zuma 50, Suzuki SV1000 Posts: 395	Not saying any of y'all "no cheater for me" think this.... But it's interesting how so many people are against cheating and staying with someone that cheats/ed, but won't drop thier friends that cheat on their SO's. Anyway... back to the discussion. I'd say no to cheating SO - trust would be very hard to regain.

11-08-2009, 10:17 PM	#57
CrazyKell Vrooom Join Date: Nov 2008 Moto: 06 ZX6R Posts: 4,427	The "friend" I'm talking to isn't like the one you're talking about. And I was dragged into the "questionable" stuff. I didn't want to be a part of it. Confronted him and told him the only way I could continue a relationship was if it wasn't all on the up and up. He chose to still be a slimebag. Not my idea of a friend.