Ladies, how much of this is true?

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by anthonyk

Splitting everything 50/50 would be dumb. I didn't want to marry myself. There are plenty of things I do that my wife doesn't, and vice versa. Plenty of decisions that one of us makes, and the other doesn't. Equal doesn't mean we do the exact same things.

Not to take over Homeslice's role as resident nit picker but equal does mean 50/50 guys... I'm just saying that all of your "70/30"s and "90/10"s rarely average out to be an honest 50/50. I'm not saying that you can't be "satisfied" with the level of disparity. I'm saying that there IS disparity and you know it. If you wipe away all this "we're equal partners" bullshit and look deep down, you'll see that no matter how slight the difference in authority is, SOMEONE has the final say in your relationships. Just because one partner doesn't "give a shit" about a certain aspect of your lives and delegates that responsibility to you, doesn't change the fact that you're the First Mate to his Captain...

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Tmall

Am I an ass because I refuse to cover my girlfriends share?

She thinks she pays too much, and I say she doesn't pay enough. She works a lot, me not so much.

She says she tries to help out around the house, as do I.
And she uses my car and the only money I ever see for that is the occasional 20 in fuel.

She thinks this is unfair. Even though she doesn't even pay 2/5. And now she wants to pay even less, and I refuse.

I've told her, I can have a roomate who pays me more and then I don't have to worry about them at all. Thing is, she'd have to find her own place, and its hard to find a place for 600 all inclusive like she gets here.

What do you all think? Am I charging her top much?

Well, my response is going to be predictable...but it depends on if you're willing to "compromise" that much. Personally, if you can afford it and you're willing to "pay" to have her around then it's all good. If you don't think that she is worth the expense, then go and find a girl that can either pay more to live there or that IS worth the extra money a month.

This is where the "equal partners" thing gets you. There was a time when men were more than happy to go to work and leave their SOs at home. Now we have an entire generation of women, not you girls apparently, that don't want to take care of the house alone and don't want to pay half either. I dumped a girl over this a few years ago. She thought that she could blow her money on whatever and I would cover the living expenses if she never actually moved ALL of her stuff in from her parents house. Plus my house would be a mess on top of it when I got home....Guess again. Now on the other hand, my last Michigan SO, got to pay much less than half because I decided that she was worth it. She kept the house clean, was fucking stupid hot and a porno star level FUCK!!!

[Trip]

I actually agree with tigger. Equal partners is a nice wording we use to try to make ourselves feel better, it never works out that way. One partner usually bites their tongue better and just accepts the role as submissive. There can only be one dominant.

[anthonyk]

Originally Posted by TIGGER

Not to take over Homeslice's role as resident nit picker but equal does mean 50/50 guys... I'm just saying that all of your "70/30"s and "90/10"s rarely average out to be an honest 50/50. I'm not saying that you can't be "satisfied" with the level of disparity. I'm saying that there IS disparity and you know it. If you wipe away all this "we're equal partners" bullshit and look deep down, you'll see that no matter how slight the difference in authority is, SOMEONE has the final say in your relationships. Just because one partner doesn't "give a shit" about a certain aspect of your lives and delegates that responsibility to you, doesn't change the fact that you're the First Mate to his Captain...

Leave the nitpicking to Homeslice. You're talking about splitting every single aspect of the relationship right down the middle as a requirement for "equal". I'm saying that would be boring as hell. My wife does/decides some stuff, I do/decide other stuff. Honestly, I've never pulled out the relationship accounting book to see who's ahead, but we both figure we're on equal footing. When one of us doesn't feel like it's equal anymore, we adjust.

Seriously, neither of us has the final say all the time. Some days it's me, some days it's her. You guys need to meet some better women.

[G-Rex]

Originally Posted by anthonyk

Leave the nitpicking to Homeslice. You're talking about splitting every single aspect of the relationship right down the middle as a requirement for "equal". I'm saying that would be boring as hell. My wife does/decides some stuff, I do/decide other stuff. Honestly, I've never pulled out the relationship accounting book to see who's ahead, but we both figure we're on equal footing. When one of us doesn't feel like it's equal anymore, we adjust.

Seriously, neither of us has the final say all the time. Some days it's me, some days it's her. You guys need to meet some better women.

What Anthony said.

I think Tigger has the biggest e-penis of anybody I've seen on the Internet. This whole thread has just made me laugh. I think what alot of people miss is that there is a huge difference between being *whipped* and respect.

There are things Carolina does. There are things I do. I've never kept *score* of who does what, and I know she doesn't either. People actually do that?

If you're keeping score, why bother being in a relationship? Seriously? I don't get that. If all you care about is quantifying who did what when and how much, get a cat. At least you know for a fact the cat won't be doing anything.

And for the record, I put the toilet seat down. Carolina has never once asked me to do so. It's just something I do.

[Tmall]

You guys are still in the doe eyed love phase.

Wait till you enter, "if she fucking does that shit one more time I'm going to jail for murder" phase...


Nobody keeps score. The only time I ever bring up paying more is when she gets on my case about some pointless shit. And its not everyday, its rarely even monthly. But, it does happen.
I shovelled the driveway twice the other night, and woke up early to shovel the car out to bring her to work. When I picked her up after work, she gave me shit about my snowpants being on the floor since she went to work.. You mean those pants that were outside longer than you were to make sure you could get into work? Ya, they've earned their right to be there.

Honestly, she is worth it. I wouldn't be doing it if she wereent.

Some of the arguments just don't make sense. I should pay more because I make more? Well then, I will be ending my contract at work ASAP, and taking a minimum wage job with zero stress and even less effort. You have fun carrying our bills...

[the chi]

Originally Posted by Sean

I find girls insecurity generally renders them unable to be friends with guys. But hey what do I know?

You need to meet different women. All but 2 of my real friends are guys (including many from this forum, even if they are my friends because I have boobs, I love them nonetheless).

Originally Posted by anthonyk

Leave the nitpicking to Homeslice. You're talking about splitting every single aspect of the relationship right down the middle as a requirement for "equal". I'm saying that would be boring as hell. My wife does/decides some stuff, I do/decide other stuff. Honestly, I've never pulled out the relationship accounting book to see who's ahead, but we both figure we're on equal footing. When one of us doesn't feel like it's equal anymore, we adjust.

Seriously, neither of us has the final say all the time. Some days it's me, some days it's her. You guys need to meet some better women.

Good post. Total truth.

[Particle Man]

Originally Posted by Tmall

You guys are still in the doe eyed love phase.

Wait till you enter, "if she fucking does that shit one more time I'm going to jail for murder" phase...

[HokieDNA01]

Originally Posted by The Chi

You need to meet different women.

Yeah no kidding. Most of my friends are male except for a few girlfriends but they took me a while to develop due to the gossipy judgemental shit that I didn't want to be a part of. Guys make great friends cause they don't care about all that...they just want to go out and drink a few beers and watch the game just like I do.

[anthonyk]

Originally Posted by Tmall

You guys are still in the doe eyed love phase.

Wait till you enter, "if she fucking does that shit one more time I'm going to jail for murder" phase...

My wife will get a kick out of that one. Been there already, for sure, and will be again no doubt.