is pr0n still innocent if...

[derf]

Through this whole thread i def have realized who would be the little devil on the left shoulder and the angel on the right one.

[Flexin]

Originally Posted by Tmall

I think there are only 2-3 that disagree with you.

I might be one of those three. I love nudity. If it people I don't know great. If I do know them that's good as well. As far as video gos that would be the same. Now if I had strong feelings for them vids or pictures with someone else might not be as good but it depends. And I don't need it to remain a fantasy.

James

[Cory]

I was gonna say something, then seen ghost cock in someones signature and lost my train of thought

[Avatard]

Men are like dogs.

You can't expect to have a nice dog if you just beat him when he's wrong. You'll do much better rewarding him when he's good.

Likewise, withholding sex, and showing your tits to others won't make him listen more, it will make him resent you more, and make the two of you more distant.

Take a week, and focus all of your sexuality on him, and seducing him, and see if he becomes more attentive, and more of an active partner. Men equate how much sex they get from their women with how much they are wanted and desired in the relationship. If you show no desire, you tell him you don't really like him, and if you send that vibe, you shouldn't act shocked if he doesn't listen or engage you.

Try "paying forward" the love, rather than withholding, and see how that works.

[fnfalman]

I like porn.

[neebelung]

This. All of it.

Originally Posted by Amorok

I probably consume moreporn than any two people on this forum. I don't know if I'm an expert but I do have an informed opinion. That being said, porn is awesome because it's meaningless fantasy. Video games are cool in the same way, it's fun to spend a couple of hours engaging in a fantasy, but actually running around with chain swords killing Hydras would be totally different. Likewise, it's fun to vent a little mental steam watching porn because I know none of it is real. Those girls don't walk around looking like that and I imagine sex with them wouldn't be like that either. Being able to fantasize is cool because it let's me mentally explore things I'm not able to in real life, but seeing pictures and video of someone I know would change things. Now this is someone from my real life suddenly in my fantasy life. The whole point of porn for me is to keep those two worlds seperate, and having them meet like that is not healthy. Now I'm fantasizing about someone in my real life, bondaries are being crossed in my mind and I'm moving closer to an innappropriate event. In my real life if only in that the possibility becomes more defined in my own mind. While I might idly fantasize about women I see or meet, seeing them featured in porn would become disturbingly real, so I think seeing porn with someone I know is innappropriate.

As for my wife sharing pictures with someone else, that's a no go. Her nudity is only for me, as is mine for her. There are certain situations as adults where utilitarian coed nudity may happen, but that's far and away a different thing than sultry underwear shots, and that's not allowed. The rule of thumb is that anything you wouldn't do in front of someone in person is not something you can share pictures of unless your significant other approves.

Sorry for being the voice of reason.

[neebelung]

Originally Posted by Avatard

Men are like dogs.

You can't expect to have a nice dog if you just beat him when he's wrong. You'll do much better rewarding him when he's good.

Likewise, withholding sex, and showing your tits to others won't make him listen more, it will make him resent you more, and make the two of you more distant.

Try "paying forward" the love, rather than withholding, and see how that works.

Nicely put (esp the "paying it forward")

[dReWpY]

withholding sex/or sexual acts as punishment is fcked up....

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by drewpy

withholding sex/or sexual acts as punishment is fcked up....

Ya I can't even imagine this. I mean, I can't imagine wanting to use that as punishment. Crazy.

[neebelung]

Originally Posted by drewpy

withholding sex/or sexual acts as punishment is fcked up....

agreed; I've never understood that line of thinking - Everyone suffers!!