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Avatard · 04-09-2011, 11:35 AM

...Awesome article about it for both parents of children, and children of parents

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/david-..._b_842037.html

azoomm · 04-09-2011, 12:42 PM

I agree with this in EVERY way. When people ask me why I left and subsequently divorced my husband, I tell them "For the sake of the children."

Rangerscott · 04-09-2011, 09:45 PM

I would be in the children of parents category.

the chi · 04-09-2011, 09:56 PM

But sadly isn't this just COMMON SENSE??

Even without children I agree with him, and having done the "loveless, happier to see the dog" kinda thing, it really makes you appreciate the good thing you got when you have it.

Particle Man · 04-10-2011, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by the chi

But sadly isn't this just COMMON SENSE??

Common sense ain't so common.

Trip · 04-10-2011, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by the chi

Even without children I agree with him, and having done the "loveless, happier to see the dog" kinda thing, it really makes you appreciate the good thing you got when you have it.

Yeah, but that makes even less sense. There is nothing, no property or monetary value, that is even remotely close to an investment in a relationship than a child. Losing daily access to your children is not something a lot of people want to give up.

It's not really common sense, it's how much attachment you have to your children and how much your "love life" is worth compared to being in your child's life. As a man, we get screwed on that end and the consequences of divorce could mean being written out of our child's life unless we fight and fight hard.

Rangerscott · 04-09-2011, 10:07 PM

My mother's husband's son is divorced. He and his ex do a good job being civil around their two daughters and both take the kids out to do things.

I lived with my father most of my life. My mom moved away. I have two brothers. They both wanted to stay with dad so they told me to stay too so we could all be together. I had a pretty "normal" child hood. I had my dad that did his best to raise 3 crazy boys. I would go see my mom during holidays and summer break. We all got our education, had friends, and socialized like any other kid.

My oldest brother hated my mom for leaving for a very long time. My middle brother was the crazy one and did whatever. I am the youngest so I was the soft one I guess. Of course I've been at the age where I don't care why they got divorced or whatever. It's in the past. Hell I still don't know why they got divorced other than the usual "they're unhappy together" type stuff. Don't care. Wasn't my marriage.

Kids are smarter than adults give them credit for. As long as you're truthful and explain to them why the events are happening around them, they'll understand or will learn to understand over time. Lying to them, keeping secrets, and acting different isn't going to help.

dReWpY · 04-10-2011, 05:16 PM

thats a pretty damn good article and i never thought of it that way

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04-09-2011, 10:07 PM	#7
Rangerscott Viff6N Mutated Warrior Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Texas Moto: '01 Honda VFR 800 & '09 ER-6N Posts: 8,704	My mother's husband's son is divorced. He and his ex do a good job being civil around their two daughters and both take the kids out to do things. I lived with my father most of my life. My mom moved away. I have two brothers. They both wanted to stay with dad so they told me to stay too so we could all be together. I had a pretty "normal" child hood. I had my dad that did his best to raise 3 crazy boys. I would go see my mom during holidays and summer break. We all got our education, had friends, and socialized like any other kid. My oldest brother hated my mom for leaving for a very long time. My middle brother was the crazy one and did whatever. I am the youngest so I was the soft one I guess. Of course I've been at the age where I don't care why they got divorced or whatever. It's in the past. Hell I still don't know why they got divorced other than the usual "they're unhappy together" type stuff. Don't care. Wasn't my marriage. Kids are smarter than adults give them credit for. As long as you're truthful and explain to them why the events are happening around them, they'll understand or will learn to understand over time. Lying to them, keeping secrets, and acting different isn't going to help.